You bet I am so excited about completing 15 years as a married woman (and that too, to a single man) that I am going to break my hiatus in the world of blogs by blogging about it, and that too almost 3 months in advance! I know, probably nobody will pat my back or appreciate my effort, but nevertheless I know what its like! I have been married for the last 15 years (well, almost)! Wow, 15 years! I can't believe so I will repeat myself. 15 YEARS!!! That means
- 15 years of trying to be an ideal wife. Well, ok, 1 year of trying to be an ideal wife and then giving it up and accepting that I can never live up to that as I haven't seen my Mother-In-Law during my growing years. As an after thought, I think child marriage is a wise thing to do. Life would have been so much easier for me if only I was brought up by my MIL. Because no matter what my mother taught me, that's always NOTHING compared to what his mother taught him!
- 15 years of trying to make sure the house is spotless before your husband is due to arrive home and then realizing gradually over time that my house would always be spotless if hubby didn't live here, like it is now. Even if that means filling my closets and drawers with my trash and my crap. And I suppose, that's actually CLEAN unless no one ever opened any of my "secret hiding places" and started commenting on my sense of cleanliness.
- 15 years of sincerely practicing and ensuring that no matter how trying your day may have been, don’t burden your husband with your trivial woes till the day I realized that most of my woes are actually a result of my dear hubby, and his by products. I mean, teenage daughter's tantrums, or this stupid thing called family-work balance that includes absurd things like 'sacrifice-compromise-adjustment" - would they be there if I wasn't married?
- 15 years of improving one another's patience level, tolerance level, and helping each other practice one's linguistic skills by making one another repeat one self over and over and over and over.
- 15 years of bathroom fights. No no, don't get imaginative here. There is not even an iota of romance involved in such fights. They are purely strategic. They are about clashing interests. They are all about "your-way-or-my-way" symptoms.
My way => It should be down
Your way => Towels and other bathroom accessories should not be PINK or PURPLE
My way => They should be nothing but PINK and PURPLE
You see, the list can go on and on, but that was not what I intended to write about. But what the heck, now that I am enjoying this, there is no need to shy away, isn't it? You know, there are quite a few myths associated with the term MARRIAGE. May be marriage is not to be blamed... when the TWO comes together they become TOO MUCH. In any case when CUPID shoots an arrow we tend to get STUPID. And as if that is not enough, both men and women have diagonally opposite expectations from this alliance called MARRIAGE. Its all about clash of perspectives
You see, when a woman gets married, she thinks, “Oh! I’m so excited to share my life with someone… now that there are two of us, we’ll be able to get twice as much done!”
And a man thinks while getting married, “This is cool, now that there’s someone else sharing my life and more importantly, the work, I’ll only have to do half as much!”
You get the difference? Now I shall rest my case!
P.S. : 15 years into marriage, my life is like CLASH OF TITANS... Cheers to me and many more like me who can relate to this! :-)
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