The Mistress

Yesterday I read and article called "The other Side Of Women" in The Sunday Times. Quite an interesting article on the so called "other women" or the "mistresses". Quite an interesting article for me, more so because this one echoed my viewpoints.

I have always wondered why the "other woman" is always looked down upon by our society. They are always made the villain of the piece - the home breaker and what not! As if the man had been either forcefully dragged into the reltationship (people call it extra marital affair/infidelity and what not!) or hypnotised into it. I mean, please grow up! How long will our society behave in such an immatured way? No man is a kid. And I believe (at the cost of generalising the whole thing) that an extra marital affair is an effect of a broken home and not the other way round. So, first of all, we should stop blaming the "other woman". Secondly, I think it takes a lot of courage to live your life as the "other woman" in a relationship where there is no commitment, no security, and to top it all, no social acceptance!

Love is a strange thing, which, when happens changes your whole outlook. It does not fathom to any logic, any calculated move towards profit or loss. It just happens. And when it happens it gives you an entirely new meaning to your life. You see beauty in everything, you yourself become beautiful. Love brings in magic to your life... this is ofcourse one aspect of it. One that you find in M&Bs. But real life is quite different. The other women go through a lot. They love a married man with all their heart. They know their relationship has no social acceptance, no future, no security... so they live in the very moment. May be thats why they can give their man, and that he wants and even more. They value each and every moment they spend with their man, probably without being demanding, without expecting much.

Men on the other hand, have nothing to lose. They get the best of the both worlds. They have security in the form of their family, and they have the mistress who can give them much more their wives can - whats more, mistress wont demand as much as the wife; with mistress their is no responsibility attached, there is no commitment to keep...

So, next time we comment on the other women, we should think twice. After all its not an easy thing to do - to love someone unconditionally without expecting a future out of it... dont know why, but i always feel for the "other woman"...